I used to think “selfish” was a dirty word. I think most of us do, right?
Actually, I still kind of flinch when I hear it. That word has been weaponized, especially against women, to mean anything from “you took a break” to “you didn’t put everyone else first.”
But lately, I’ve been sitting with it. Turning it over. Seeing if it really deserves the reputation.
Still on my ‘bringing selfish back’ kick — it started in episode 51, and it’s only gaining steam.
Because here’s what I keep noticing.
So many of us choose ourselves, but only with an explanation attached.
“I took the day off… but only because I was burned out.”
“I said no… but I felt terrible about it.”
“I booked the trip… but it was cheap and I had points and I’ll still work while I’m there.”
Why do we do that?
If choosing your peace, your time, your energy gets labeled selfish, maybe that’s not a red flag. Maybe it’s a green light.
So many of us are still tiptoeing around what we actually want, afraid someone will think we’re full of ourselves. Newsflash: being full of yourself sounds kind of… healthy?
So here’s your friendly dare this week.
Do one thing that feels wildly selfish and tell no one why you did it.
No disclaimers. No justifications. No receipts.
Just do it because you wanted to.
And notice how that feels in your body.
I’ll be unpacking more of this idea on the podcast this week, including a quote I read recently that grabbed me and got me thinking differently about how we spend our lives and who we’re really doing it for.
Catch you Wednesday,
xo Tracy
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